Marriage attitude

I didn't write anything yesterday because I was too lazy. And I was watching movies the whole day. I don't have a lot left before I start school, so I'm having fun. 

Now, to more important matters. The subject I'm going to call about is marriage attitude. Because not all girls want to marry, have kids and be a stay-at-home mum. And an example is me. In my opinion, I'll never get married and never have kids. I might adopt a kid, but I'm not gonna have one and go through that whole pain and still be treated unfairly in society. Why the pain when you only gain a kid? Another mouth to feed...now that's mean, but that's my opinion.

Marriage. The attitude towards it, years ago, was that most girls wanted to get married. That was their target in life, according to a interview by a sociologist. But now, in 200-something, girls want to get married but they also want to have a great career, be a great businesswomen. And I respect those who do that. Have a somewhat happy marriage, beautiful kid/s and a successful career. What I'm saying is I can't and won't. All I want is for my family to be happy (if I'm happy they'll be happy) and a great career. 

So know less girls want to get married. But there are still problems. Because as always there is a dark side to marriage. For example, there is domestic abuse. There is domestic labour. These equal = inequality in a household. 

I'll start with domestic labour. What is domestic labour? Why does Google say that I spelt it wrong? I'm not American. However, domestic labour is housework, basically. It's just a more sociological word. If you don't know what housework is, use Google. An example might be washing dishes. And in most households the woman does domestic labour. And this is not normal. Let's not be stereotypical. And then the woman has to face triple shift if she works and is married: domestic labour, career and emotional support for her family. 

Domestic abuse. I bet everyone knows about this. Because even though you don't read a lot about it in newspapers, you still hear about it. It's a big subject, too big for today. But what I'm going to say is that it is more likely a woman will face domestic abuse in a home than a man. Yes, even men face domestic abuse. 

Before, divorce was frowned upon. If you married, you are meant to stay together for ever, right? In my opinion if something goes wrong in that marriage and you cannot mend it, then divorce is the right choice. But now, divorce is on a rise. Maybe the women, as it is more likely they'll fill for a divorce, agree with me. Maybe they have a higher standard in marriage.

Also women can also not make the same mistake as before. Now they can live with their boyfriend instead of getting married straight away. They can also have sex with their partner without being frowned upon. Which is great, it means the society is changing in good way.

But there is a big way to go. Conclusion? Marriage is good for those who want to stay committed, not those who want freedom to move around and see what they like, people like me. Women, and men, can re-marriage after divorce or they can girl/boyfriends. Or they can choose to never marry, or marry later on when they settled down which I guess it what I'll do.

Boys are stronger than girls...

...I would like to disagree. But first I would like to say sorry for not writing yesterday. I forgot. My bad. Actually I was watching The Da Vinci Code.

I heard the phrase "Boys are stronger than girls" a thousand of times, and a thousand of times I had debates with the people, mostly boys, who said that. If a girl said that, I would try my best not to slap her. Because it's wrong.

Boys might be physically stronger, as nature made them that way. But is violence the best? I mean, we can get out of trouble by using our minds, our intelligence. I might even go further and say that girls are more intelligent and more mature than boys, and instead of using our hands we use our brain. Which means we outsmart whoever and we also don't get in trouble with the law.

That's the first part of the whole debate. Have you ever thought it this way: girls are stronger than boys because of many factors. I'm going to make a small list.

1. Do boys carry a heavy baby for 9 months? I don't think so. Either we decide to have a baby, or we don't (i.e.: rape, condom comes off etc) we still go through pain. We also lose a job if we are 21 and are likely to have a baby. We also have the pain of delivering the baby, and we might end up dead or our baby dies. Also we are frowned upon if we have an abortion. In my opinion, it's our body we do whatever we want as long as it doesn't hurt the society. Furthermore, let's say if a male had a baby and had an abortion the society wouldn't be against it.
2. We have periods. I mean, it is easy right? Right? No. Boys don't know how it is to have periods. Especially at the beginning when, even if your mother tells you about it, you think you're bleeding to death. Furthermore it is very uncomfortable and sometimes you can't do things you enjoy, like going to the beach, if the period is heavy.
3. Double standards. I spoke about this previously, but I'll state briefly what I mean. If boys sleep around, they are cheered on, encouraged to do again. As long as they don't leave the girl pregnant. But if girls do that and are found out, they are shunned from society. Or they are told off. Then killed. Or whatever, it is still different if you're a girl and if you're a boy.
4. Expectations. Boys also are expected to be fit, but they are not pushed as girls are. What I mean is that  the most number of teens dying from anorexia (as said previously) are girls. Magazines, i.e.: media, tell girls that they have to be slim, beautiful, perfect, a sex object. Don't believe me? Ok then. Slim: look at a fashion/glamour magazine. Then count how many overweight models do you see? Or how many normal weight models do you see? Two, one, NONE? Beautiful: how many models do you see without make up? None. Perfect: look again. How many are not airbrushed? How many have spots, wrinkles? Not many. A sex object: this is simple. Look at page 3 on Sun newspaper. What do you see? A topless girl in a bikini. This is how media sees girls and teaches girls how to be. Nothing wrong with that, right? Wrong, because girls commit suicide because of this. Girls are pressured to be perfect. But perfection doesn't exist, because all girls are beautiful the way they are. 

So the conclusion? Boys and girls are different, and that itself is a beautiful thing. To be different, unique. To be you. Media should encourage imperfection, uniqueness. Boys might be stronger than girls in means of fighting, but girls are still powerful. Girls might cry at night, but next morning they will behave everything is alright. Girls have been strong all over history, and media should encourage girl power.

~Miru